Who Chooses Adoption and Why?
Newspaper, movie, and television coverage of adoption tends to be inaccurate or filled with exaggerated stereotypes. There is no typical woman who chooses adoption as a response to an untimely pregnancy. Birthparents vary in age from the early teens to late thirties, and may be either married or single.
Commonly, however, birthparents choosing adoption are single mothers in their early twenties, employed in entry level jobs. In four of five cases they experience the pregnancy without emotional or financial support from the birthfather, with whom the relationship may have ended either before the pregnancy is discovered or shortly afterward.
Thus, in only one of five cases is the birthfather actively involved in planning the adoption. In another one of five cases the birthmother’s parents are helping her through the process.
Because these pregnant women tend to be young, with modest means, and few sources of emotional and practical support, becoming a single parent may seem to present insurmountable obstacles to completing education or career goals. Parenting a baby in such circumstances may condemn mother and child to many years of struggle, with little hope for improvement.
Many women who want a better life for their babies (and for themselves as well) consider adoption. For these women choosing adoption clearly seems to be a responsible solution to the problem of an untimely pregnancy.
Choosing an adoption plan enables a pregnant woman to love, nurture, and give the brightest future possible to her child, while also maintaining the freedom to pursue her own goals.
A woman who fulfills an adoption plan must be mature and wise enough to act upon the realization that adoption commonly leaves all three parties, child, birthmother, and adoptive parents, with far richer possibilities for the future.